Where do we find Happiness?

Where do we find Happiness? 

I have asked this question repetitively for more than a decade until someone came and explained to me that it had always been with me.

Happiness is a state of mind. We can create it whenever we want it. Don’t believe me – try finding it elsewhere. The only problem is that we think happiness is non-integral part of ourselves, it’s always another that can make us happier.When I was a 5 years old, ice creams made me happy and when I was 16, it was my friends who became a synonym of happiness, later it became my family and happiness kept on moving from one place/person to another.

Happiness is an inside affair. You cannot buy enough stuff to make you happy. There will always be a longing for something more. Some people find it in luxurious apartments, others in childhood homes, but the truth is that it’s within us. Everything that we are seeking outside is already within us. If you are not happy with what you already have, you’ll never be. What you have shall be taken away from you, if you are not grateful for it.

There are thief of happiness, namely,

1- Blame

2- Guilt

3- Jealousy

4- Worry

5- Doubt

  Blame

It’s tempting to blame another for everything that goes wrong in our lives, all we got to do is sit back and bitch – it could be a family member, a friend, relative, circumstances, weather, government and if nothing fits at all, we all have God. Blaming is a natural human tendency. When something bad happens, the first thing we want to know is, “whose fault is it?” It is a means to discharge pain which makes us feel relieved but for a very short period.

Blame Game is toxic behaviour, it is addictive to wash your hands off and let another deal with the consequences of your own karma ( only in your head).When we take responsibility for our own life, we take away power from other people, stop depending upon approvals of others and become better human being.

 

 Guilt

We all make mistakes. When we continually feel guilty for our mistakes, we started living in the past. You have to accept your mistakes and rise above them. If you are not making mistakes, there must be something terribly wrong with you.

 

 Jealousy

It is a feeling that another is better than myself. It brings along emotions of low self-esteem, doubt, insecurity, fear and suspicion. Never compare yourself or your life with another. We are all unique in our own ways. People are always more screwed than we think they are, social media highlights the happy times alone, we cannot assume that people are happy just because they are always smiling in front of the camera.

It is a sickening feeling to feel sad because someone else is happier.This emotion can ruin our lives and degrade us as human beings.

Worry

Worrying is like sitting in a rocking chair, it gives you something to do, but it doesn’t get you anywhere. Worry is a complete waste of time. 99 % of the things that we worry about never happen.What’s meant to be, will be and there’s nothing much that you can do about it. Worrying is like trying to find solutions to the problems that do not exist at all. It is like carrying an umbrella hoping it would rain.

 Doubt

 I’ll never find the perfect partner

I would not ever get a job that I love

I will fail

All of it categorises as doubt. When we do not have faith in our own capabilities, we start doubting ourselves and everyone around us. Thoughts become things. When we constantly talk about failing, we do fail.