Let us just stop putting People in Boxes!

 ” There’s a story behind every person. There’s a reason why they’re the way they are. They aren’t just like that because they want to. Something in the past created them, and sometimes it’s impossible to fix them”

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How Often Do You Compliment Other People ?

There are two kinds of people in the world: givers and takers. The takers may eat better, but the givers sleep better.

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As anyone who ever gives gifts knows, it is often more fun to give than to receive. One of my favorite Authors, Anne Frank quoted- Nobody ever became poor by giving. It’s a deep psychology when we give something away to someone who needs it more, we uplift not them but ourselves. Our self-esteem and self-respect multiplies every time we do something for someone without expecting anything in return.
And one of the most priceless things you can give to another person is your Time. You’re giving them a slice of your life that would never come back.
Blessings are another way of giving people something they can never return. The more you give, the more you find. Its the only treasure which multiplies when given away. When you wish and pray for other’s happiness, you receive abundance of everything. It all comes back to you manifold in unexpected ways.
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What you can easily give away is a genuine compliment. When you see/hear and feel something that’s good, take a moment to appreciate it. Words are like magical powder or potion which can change lives. You are walking down the street and you hear a homeless singing a beautiful song, compliment them. You arrive at a party and one of your colleagues is dressed like a Diva, keep aside your ego and tell her how beautiful she looks.
People need to hear that they’re doing good. Do not assume that your compliment would mean nothing to them. Do not take for granted anything that is beautiful. There’s something good in everyone,shift your focus from complaints to compliments and your world would transform in front of you.
Be a source of happiness and positivity in the lives of others not a reason for their headache and heartbreaks. When you start appreciating and complimenting people, you would start feeling great about yourself. You’ll start looking for good in everything and become more grateful for things around you.
I , for instance, can not stop myself from appreciating things and people that I genuinely like. I can not hold myself back and seal my lips when I like what I see. I observe all the time, I notice little things like how people shake hands and smile when they’re photographed,how they react when they see a dog, how they hold the cup while they’re talking, how they roll their eyes in disgust when someone says something they do not like and a lot more things.
I give compliments more often . Sometimes, we are the only one to say good things to them.It’s also important to remember that some of the best compliments have nothing to do with a person’s appearance. Woman do not always want to hear that they’re beautiful and pretty and in good shape , they want to hear that they’re brave and fierce .
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When you genuinely compliment people, you might be telling them something they never believed was within them or something that would give them hope to carry on with lives.
I remember every compliment that helped me evolve as a better human being :
 Last week, we visited a friend for thanksgiving, she bid us adieu by telling me that the way I carry myself with so much ease , it’s hard to believe that there’s a fire inside.
In a world which is obsessed with criticism , be a ray of light in someone’s life.

 

Love you Zindagiiii !!!!!

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Dear Zindagi ,

I love you. I am grateful for everything you bestowed upon me all those years – joys,thrills,pains,sufferings,assholes,frenemies,chances,opportunities,surprises,shock elements…every damn thing.

I adore you, my life. Every second that I have been alive/ shall be alive shall be forever inked on my soul’s canvas. I am sharing few lessons I learned all those years .

Every 5 seconds , someone is taking his/her last breath. You are still alive – Does that mean anything to you ?

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Being Alive is a gift. You have to celebrate it. Nobody knows what happens after you die, you might get a new life, you might not get one, for now, all you got is this one life. How do you wanna spend it ?

  1. Fucking be whoever you wanted to be when you were 5
  2. Don’t keep talking about what went wrong with you to everyone you meet. Find out solutions. Stop being a Cry Baby. You don’t need Mercy – You are a Lion.
  3. Say what’s inside your heart without sugar coating,manipulating or making it right.
  4. Celebrate your birthday like it’s your last.
  5. Your Job isn’t to JUDGE. We are not here to decide who deserves what and what is wrong and right. Stop judging people , events , things and situations.
  6. If you worry about everyone who talks shit about you , Thou shall be Damned
  7. Mug Up – What people say about you has nothing to do with you but everything to do with them
  8. Cut off people who belittle you.Nothing can be more poisonous than being with someone who doesn’t appreciate you.
  9. You should be your own Priority. Don’t wait for someone else to come and make you happy. It’ s not their Job . It’s Yours.
  10. Tell people you love how much they mean to you before they’re gone.
  11. All of us have a limited time here on Earth. Make every second count.
  12. Forgive the ones who wrong you, they’re gonna die too
  13. Make your Life grand. Show the world who the hell they’re dealing with
  14. Do not take ” shit” from anybody.
  15. You were not put on this Earth to be loved by everyone. Stop pleasing people.
  16. Write. Speak. Scream who you are.
  17. Chase your Dreams. Run after them.
  18. Don’t make life about stuff.
  19. Do not spend eternity trying to figure out who you are. Do what makes you happy.
  20. Live for a day. Do not plan your entire life.
  21. Leave some room for ” Life to happen” to you
  22. Do not obsess with becoming someone, you already are someone.
  23. Write down your wishes. Make a bucket list every year. Live your dreams
  24. Believe in yourself. What you think of yourself is nothing but stories made up from people who know nothing about themselves.
  25. Explore new places and new people. Widen your perspective about things.
  26. Learn to say – No without having to explain.
  27. Understand other people’s opinions. Respect them without being judgemental.
  28. What is right for you could be wrong for another. Do not get stuck here. Move on.
  29. You do not owe an explanation or an apology to anyone.
  30. Teach people how to treat you. Never settle for less than what you deserve.
  31. Be Grateful for what you already have.
  32. Break the habit of talking about your problems. Nobody cares.
  33. Spend time with people who encourage you to cross your own limits.
  34. Dream Big.
  35. Universe is listening to your thoughts.ALL the time.
  36. Anyone who tries to bring you down is already below you.
  37. Your time is precious. Watch where it goes.
  38. Learn new things. Watch movies. Read Books. Travel.
  39. Stop asking for love, respect or attention.
  40. You’re better off without most of the people you know. Choose your audience, not everyone deserves a front seat at your life.
  41. Do not be impressed by money,cars and diamonds. Be impressed by good manners,intelligence, and kindness.
  42. Do not let ” others,” tell you how to live your own life.
  43. Never ” compare” yourself to anyone . Someone would always be better than you.
  44. Remind yourself – you are a mortal human being. You could be dead any second from now and where’d all the plans go.
  45. Stop stressing about anything at all. It’s a waste of time.
  46. God won’t be waiting there to ask you – what was your package on earth ? Stop being defined by your profession. You are more than that.
  47. It doesn’t matter where you are if you don’t have happiness inside you..there’s no where else in the Universe where you’ll find it.
  48. Breathe. Just Breathe.
  49. Relax.
  50. Smile. Always smile.

, “I am writing a letter to life for the #DearZindagi activity at BlogAdda”

Only for those who feel their Lives have been WASTED !

I bet sometimes,  The President of United States of America  must also have felt, ” Damn it. What am I doing with my  Life ”

Being the Leader of World’s Most Powerful Country does not necessarily pays off.

Everyone you have known in your Life goes through a phase when he / she feels – UNIMPORTANT

Let me make myself perfectly clear, This isn’t True, We are all Important, Required, Wanted and Needed in Society.

Later that day, a childhood friend of mine confessed that she has been feeling Depressed since a long time. She is a new Mom and like all other new mothers in the world, she felt her world has transformed. They hardly get any time for themselves. Bringing up a child is a Full-Time Job and even the thought of doing something along with it is – Suffocating. At least not until the child turns a year old.

Another pal of mine who has started his Dream Company is working day and night but not getting results as expected. He envies his friends from Corporate with 9 to 5 jobs, fixed salaries, weekend parties, and all other perks. The Folks from Corporate, on the other hand, wish they could wake up at 11 am.

I know a girl who recently lost her mother and cries every day alone but what she told me gave me just a glimpse of how strong she is as a person. She said , ” Now , I am Fearless ”

What I am trying to Convery is – The Grass is not greener on the other side but where you water it.

Most of us are watering grass of our neighbors and complaining about our own Deserts.

Last weekend, when we visited our friends here in the USA – a bizarre discussion started, which was only bizarre for me. I am the Only One on H4 Visa which means – Amreeka ne le li AAP ki in simplest words. I can not work here despite being an  INTERNATIONAL WRITER.

They were talking about how f***ked up their Jobs are and how they wish they could just sit at home and have fun.

But  they did not forget to mention / point out that it’s shameful to ask for money from your husband. Now I had a Choice, I could take this as a tight slap on my face or on theirs.

I work as a Writer. Instead of cursing my Boss and my job, I am doing something I Love, not just love. It’s something that defines my very existence.

As if this was not enough…but Wait …

I have been asked exactly 1 MILLION times by my friends and relatives in INDIA as of what I do all day.

And it leaves me amazed …nobody asked me such questions when I was in India. Simply, because there’s so much to do in India. Remember ( Gossip Gossip )

I have been doing something since a long time. I follow someone who Inspires Others every day. They could be famous celebrities, social workers, TED Speakers, Brahmakumaris or regular people with regular stuff to share through blogs and channels.

Here are few of many People Who have INNSSSPPPIRREEDDDDD ME

Actor Varun Pruthi

This Guy makes videos where he talks to street vendors and children begging on the streets of Delhi which is nothing Spectacular but what he is doing for humanity is Magical. In his videos, you see through the Pure Soul of Poor Indians who are honest to the core. The ones who have a higher self-respect for themselves than the World Leaders cribbing about petty issues.

Check out one of his Videos

Devdutt Patnaik

This Guy I met only today ( virtually obviously ) has shaken my very soul. I look at my Culture and Traditions differently only because of him.

I salute him because he is doing something Marvelous in his Life. He is bringing back the lost glory of our Nation through Myths.

Maz Jobrani

This one is a Funny Comedian from Iran who has married a Desi Gal. His puns are full of Life and they have a message behind. He is a Proud Man..proud of his roots.

Sabi Shaikh

He is a dear friend of mine, an Ex – Rockstar, an Established Writer of Best Seller – Via Delhi. He is a living Inspiration because this is one man I know who knows no Fear. Blatantly Honest who often gets criticized for what he writes but never stops and never will

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Sandeep Maheshwari

He is a Brand in Himself. He talks like an elder brother at home and would give you the most wonderful lessons of your life through simple stories. I adore him.

Brahmakumari Sister Shivani

I have been following here since a few years now. I must confess that she has answers to all my problems. ALWAYS.

Every Life is Precious. Our Capabilities are Unlimited. Never tell Yourself again that your life has been wasted.

How Miserable Lives " THEY" Must Be Living

” THEY ” are the ones who are scattered all around the Globe. The extremely sad , scornful , revengeful , unloved and malicious souls .


I personally believe that We can only give out what we have within ourselves . The One who is always making others happier is also the one is abundantly happy and rich inside. On the other side , the one who makes others feel insulted , dejected and unwanted is the one who is filled with Hatred inside.

Simply put , when we squeeze a lemon , we get lemon juice and when we squeeze a orange , we get orange juice. What vibrations you send to people is Who You Are Inside.

And I keep wondering how Miserable it is to live with a constant fear that Everyone is here to bring you harm. ” They ” spend an eternity not loving or trusting anyone around them. Carrying the long list in heads with annual records of ” Who Hurt me When ” and ” How did I avenge them ” is pathetic to me in every sense.

Forgiveness is not something we do for others , It is rather a gift to ourselves.

” THEY ” are the ones who would never miss a chance to hurt you. Because that is the Only Thing that makes them Happier. Needless to say , how wrong they have been living their lives.

An acquaintance of mine , An Old-aged woman in her sixties has been collecting things for over 40 years now .All kinds of things.She won’t leave her home without locking her wardrobe , Almira and beds , trying to save them from her own husband and children.

Extremely Insecure and Possessive for Things not People. She worships Money and hates Everyone else.

The Moment she starts telling you about her Life , you feel trapped inside an Haunted Castle with no escape. The stories are not Scary but Horrible.

She deeply suffers inside, her soul is wounded at all places by Self- Hurt.

She chose to make her Life Miserable and for Everyone around her.

Family and Relatives know that she is mentally unstable , being Unloved for years makes us a Devil.

To be unable to TRUST anyone is a Disease.




The ones who are forever looking for mistakes and faults in others can be compared to the Flies who would sit on cow dung rather than sweets.

And When they find someone who is Flawless , Compromising , Loving and Understanding – They don’t know what to do with them.

” Living Peacefully ” is not their cup of Tea. They look for Conflicts in all situations. They dig in past , make up stories , blame you , criticize you and laugh at you for being who you are.

As Long as You are Living Your Life on their terms , Working like a Robot which has no Emotions. Never Reacting to Anything they say / do. You can  ONLY Survive if you decide to be their Punch Bag.

And I still say , Love them because they need it the most but not at the cost of your own Destruction.

P.S – ” You don’t have to Set Fire to Yourself to Keep Them Warm “












You can Read People like One reads a Book







Eventually, People see who you are inside. You can’t fool them for long. Sugar Coating everything you say can make others Diabetic of you.

What you are inside, shows up outside. Your face reflects your inner peace, solace of the soul, your deepest, darkest secrets. People often put themselves bare when they speak.

I wonder why they say – It’s not easy to read a person. I hear people aloud when they sit quietly alone in a Cafe and sip in the last drop of coffee. I see them bare when they pass on a dirty stare at a street beggar who touched their Armani.I listen to the chaos hidden beneath happy faces, I see clearly when people put others down and climb upon them.

Someone once told me, ” Actions speak louder than words “. I understood the lines much later in Life. How you make others feel about themselves says everything about You. The more you respect yourself, the more you adore everyone around you.The one who hates everyone today might have loved someone wildly.

You can Read People like One Read a Book. Here’s How;

1- When they say they love you, they may/ may not mean it but when they say they hate you, they really do.

2- Eyes are the windows to the soul. They never lie.

3- Trust the Vibes always.

4- If they are trying to insult you, they are scared of your subconsciously.

5- You can know a person completely if you know their favorite movies, favorite books, favorite songs, the favorite hang out places etc.

6- How one treats the animals, women, children and weak – Speaks a lot about them.

7- People who laugh a lot are hiding the pain that has become unbearable.

8- Talk to a person about the things that they are most passionate about and see for yourself how their eyes begin to shine and  they turn into a toddler once again.

9- The one who gossips with you – will GOSSIP of you.

10- When people stop talking to you, they start talking about you.

11- What they say when drunk, tired, hungry, sleepy and angry is True.100 % Raw Truth.

12- Slip of Tongue is not a slip of the tongue.

13- Listen to that little voice inside you that tells you to trust or not to trust them.

14- The Best time to talk to a person is after midnight – everyone finds it hard to hide emotions that time.

15- Ask them questions that would shock them and they would tell you the Truth.

People are always screaming who they are – in everything they do, the way they walk, talk, eat, drink, smile, cry and listen to you. They all yearn to be understood and accepted with all their flaws. I believe people all around the World are actually tired of wearing masks and It’s time everyone breaks free. It’s time people tell – I am Devastated when asked How are You and say I am thinking about committing suicide when asked what’s up.

Let us not be ashamed of showing to the World who we are deep inside and what we are feeling.


Egyptian Single Mother going Viral

As much as it screams about the Strength of WOMAN, it also secretly says that no matter how HARD you try, the WORLD would not stop being PATRIARCHAL !!

Ms. Abu Daooh  64, spent 43 years of her Life in disguise.She was left as an economically paralyzed woman after her husband’s death facing the wrath of the world. She took a decision, to lead a life as a Man.Why ? To protect herself from the beasts dressed as men roaming around in the streets.Faced with a lifetime of begging on the streets, she disguised herself as a man by wearing loose, full-length robes and took on manual jobs making bricks, working in construction and polishing shoes.   This is not a scene from Great Indian Mahabaharth where Pandavas were ordered a thing called AGAT VYAS which meant they had to spend a year in disguise and if spotted or identified, they would need to spend another 14 years as an extended exile in forests. This is Egypt and the great ancient Egyptian Culture.

I am left wondering  – where is the world heading towards. We are completely cut off from our roots and wanting to reach the aliens that lead towards NOTHING.

Pick any Country from  any Continent – India, Persia, Mexico or Greece. We all have a thing in common – a beautiful past. Our beliefs, mythologies, cultures, and traditions are a sharp contrast to our Lives today.Almost all ancient cultures believe in the power of woman and worship women in one form or the other.

In the midst of trying to find a better way of living, we have turned into living corpses – lifeless. Mere wandering souls waiting to be doomed.

Why did Abu Daioh need to disguise herself as a Man to survive?

Why can’t we accept a woman who chose to live without a Man?

Why on Earth is a woman called  a slut if she decides to be on her own?

Why are we raped?

A woman who does the same work , gets a lesser pay and it’s Okay?

India bans BBC Documentary on Nirbhaya -India’s Daughter

“The more they try to stop the film, the more they are going to pique people’s interest,” she said. “Now, everyone is going to want to see it.”

“Banning this movie is not the answer,” said Anu Agha, an independent MP. “We have to confront the issue that men in India 

do not respect women and any time there is a rape, blame is put on the woman.”

 “India’s Daughter,” from award-winning British filmmaker Leslee Udwin, who won rare access to New Delhi’s Tihar jail to interview the prisoner on death row.
“It will not allow any organization to leverage such an incident and use it for commercial purpose,” Rajnath Singh said of the film, which charts the aftermath of the fatal gang-rape. 
Gangrape lawyers ML Sharma, AP Singh might face a Bar Council of India (BCI) inquiry (again), promises BCI chairman MK Mishra.
In a previous televised interview, Singh had said: “If my daughter or sister engaged in premarital activities and disgraced herself and allowed herself to lose face and character by doing such things, I would most certainly take this sort of sister or daughter to my farmhouse, and in front of my entire family, I would put petrol on her and set her alight.”
Speaking frankly , I do not blame him. He is not at fault actually. It’s true somehow that when women get raped , it’s because of themselves.
Yes , A P Singh’s mother , wife , daughters and every women that ( I suppose so ) is important to him is to be blamed. How insulting it is for every Indian woman to raise such men  , marry these monsters and give birth to such demons.
He isn’t at fault , I say. Blame women around him who cannot take the stand to put this man behind bars, who think of themselves as too weak to speak out their views. 
Women , only if you knew that You are not equal to Man , You are much above them. Ask a Man to take thousands life or more and assure me that he can bring a life into this world., They can’t.
This is what Mr.Sharma has to say-
 “A female is just like a flower. It gives a good-looking, very softness pleasant performance. But on the other hand, a man is just like a thorn. Strong, tough enough.
“That flower always needs protection. If you put that flower in a gutter, it is spoilt. If you put that flower in a temple, it will be worshipped.”
And If you don’t understand what he meant by gutter , let me read between the lines for you –
1- You are in a gutter if you wear short clothes
2- You are in a gutter if you have a boyfriend.
3- You are in a gutter if you are outside at midnight.
4- You are in a gutter if you drink and dance in bar.
I believe you understand what means being in a Temple according to Ill- Mentality Indian Men.
Let’s hear more of his thoughts –
You are talking about man and woman as friends. Sorry, that doesn’t have any place in our society. We have the best culture. In our culture there is no place for a woman,” said Sharma, possibly having hit the nail on the head for why rape is so endemic.
“In our society, we never allow our girls to come out from the house after 6:30 or 7:30 or 8:30 in the evening with any unknown person.”


“She should not be on the street like food. Ladies are more precious than a gem. It is up to you how you want to keep it – in your hand or on the street.
“A woman means I immediately put the sex in his eyes.”
And let me remind you these are the two men in authority of Nirabhaya’s Rape Case. Bow down to Indian Hypocrisy one more time. Hail to the Mother Land.
Now ,let’s hear what the Rapist has to say on it –
In an interview from jail, Mukesh Singh said that women who went out at night had only themselves to blame if they attracted the attention of gangs of male molesters. “A girl is far more responsible for rape than a boy,” he said.

Spot any difference between the Rapist and Lawyer and You shall be granted anything you wish for.

Leslee Udwin – Take a Bow, Indian men and women are grateful towards you .



A Complete Guide for Happy Relationships

Relationships at simplest are a Mirror to your Soul. They do not reflect anyone else but yourself.The happier and peaceful relationships you have , the more beautiful is your Soul

One of the most amazing things that can happen is finding someone who sees everything you are and won’t let you be anything less.

Simple Rules to Healthier and Happier Relationships :

1- If they love you, you’ll know it. If they don’t, you’ll wonder all the time if they do.

2- If you are in a relationship that causes you anguish, GET OUT. We come together in relationships to grow, not to live in misery.I do not believe in carrying the burden when you don’t feel like. I can easily move out rather than being sad in a relationship.

3-If someone did something bad enough to make you remove them from your life, don’t be foolish enough to invite them back in.You don’t need anyone who treats you BAD.

4- When someone wants to be with you, they will be with you. No excuses, shadiness or hesitation. It really is that simple!

5- When a woman no longer gets frustrated and upset with you, you can almost guarantee that she doesn’t care anymore.

6- Don’t force a relationship that doesn’t fit. Your life naturally makes room for the people who are meant to be there.

7- Sometimes, you find the right person at the wrong time. Sometimes it’s the wrong person at the right time. But when you find the right person, at the right time, in the right situation, it’s because you’re meant to be together. Fate has grabbed both of your hands. Don’t let go.

8- If someone continuously mistreats you, have enough respect for yourself to leave them. It may hurt for a while, but it’ll be OK. Oftentimes walking away has nothing to do with weakness, and everything to do with strength.

9- At some point you will realize that you have done too much for someone, that the only next possible step to do is TO STOP.

10- Being alone will never cause as much loneliness as the wrong relationships.

11-The biggest mistake I have made in my life is letting people stay in my life far longer than they deserve to.

12- Don’t lose your dignity and self respect trying to make people love and appreciate you, when they just aren’t capable.

13- When you find true love. Don’t forget old friends.

14- Be mindful of what you throw away, be careful of what you push away and think hard before you walk away.

15- I can be your Choice, Reason, Priority but never your option.

16- Relationships lasts long because two people made a choice to : Keep it, Fight for it and work for it. It’s a full time Job and when you stop working for it , it collapses.

17-  The Best Kind of Relationship will be the one where you feel – Oh, the comfort – the inexpressible comfort of feeling safe with a person – having neither to weigh thoughts nor measure words, but pouring them all right out, just as they are, chaff and grain together; certain that a faithful hand will take and sift them, keep what is worth keeping, and then with the breath of kindness blow the rest away.

18-  Your Parents love you madly .Most of the children never realize what they mean to their parents.I have seen my parents feel whatever I am feeling at certain point of life 100 times. I pledge to stay Happy Forever for them

19- I won’t allow you stay one second more in my life when I feel disconnected from inside. It’s either there completely with me or nothing at all.

20- I forgive people easily . I try not to judge them. I trust karma.

21 – Do not share your problems with everyone. Most of them are Glad you have them. It’s Human ,They will judge you anyways.

22- Do your Own Thing. Nothing on Earth should stop you from being Who You Were Meant To Be.

23- Wasting time on Gossip will make stink one day. Stay away from Negativity in every way you can

24- People who talk behind your back deserve to be at your Back. They would never gather up the Courage to speak at your face, Let them BARK , I say

25-  Love Yourself the Most .

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