Ancient India’s views on Pre Marital Sex

In a country which protests against public display of affection , talking about Sex is still a taboo.Our teachers still shy away from teaching the reproduction process in schools. We wait for our turn at a Chemist’s shop and refrain from shouting aloud that we need a sanitary napkin who in turns packs it in a black polythene bag.

Allow me to get inside the past and bring shocking facts about India. It derives it’s name from Bharata , who was born out of a pre marital relationship between Shakuntala , the beautiful maiden and daughter of sage Kanya with Dushyanata , a king. Hinduism never approves free sex nor condoms pre marital relationship.

In the epic Mahabharta , Kunti , the mother of Pandavas beget a son , Karna from the Sun before getting married to Pandu .Fearing condemnation from the family , she deserts the new born baby who eventually grows up to become a great warrior.

Recently  a Delhi Sessions Court judge ruled that premarital sex is “immoral” and against the “tenets of every religion.” and “no religion in the world allows premarital sex.” Many contemporary Hindus might agree with this judgment. However, ancient Hindus would have found this judgment so alien to their worldview.

Gāndharva Vivāha in Ancient Hinduism

Hindu texts catalog eight means of varying degrees of acceptability of acquiring a bride. Gāndharva vivāha is one of those. In this type of marriage, a woman selects her own mate. The two consensually agree to live together. Sensual passion drives the consummation of their relationship, which didn’t require parental or societal consent. In other words, premarital sexual courtship was allowed in gāndharva vivāha.

Understanding the Roots of Prejudice

The present judgment is not a reflection of either a reasonable thinking or the traditional Hindu worldview on the subject of premarital sex and morality. Instead, it is a reflection of the misogynistic  worldviews that many Indians have sadly internalized.

Religions are oppressive toward women and commoditize them. The feminine sexuality is feared and violently denied. If her behavior gets out of patriarchal control, she must be cruelly punished.

 Hinduism views sexuality as natural and the feminine as sacred. The Ṥatapatha Brāhmaṇa (5:2:1:10) declares that the woman is the “better half of the man.”

 According to me , Sex is nothing but passionate expression  of love towards your soul mate. Some think of it as a basket ball game , It doesn’t matter with whom you play as long as you are enjoying the game.I am completely against this kind of liaison. Love is Purity. If you truly love someone , you would respect their bodies. You would never force them into something for your own pleasure.
Love is a very intimate thing and society has actually nothing to do with how an individual should or should not express love. 
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This post is written for Indiblogger in association with the topic ‘YES or NO to pre-marital sex’ for Poonaam Uppal.


6 thoughts on “Ancient India’s views on Pre Marital Sex

  1. I'm not religious, but I think it's a little unfair to demonise religions for denouncing premarital sex. Rules exist to safeguard the interests of the weak, and to make sure that the powerful do not trample over others. Likewise, the idea of religious dictats is not to curb freedom of choice, but to protect the interests of those who are weak or who are not able to protect their self interests.

    Imagine a situation where a couple have consensual sex and the guy suddenly vanishes, abandoning the lady with a kid in tow. Tabs on premarital sex ensure that women are not abandoned, and more importantly, so that children have a secure life. A life without rules would be chaotic and hell for the weak. Think about it.



  2. On a personal note, however, I agree that what two consenting adults choose to do is their business alone, and they have the right to make a choice. They also have a duty to be responsible and the obligation to bear the consequences of their choices.

    Religions have their own role, and are well within their rights to spell out what they might deem to be responsible behaviour. Not all religions go beyond the preaching to FORCE you to follow what is prescribed.


  3. CRD ,

    I thank you for taking out time to share your views. I agree with you that Religious practices can be a BOON to weaker sections and They do keep us intact together.

    What I am against is using women as a commodity and chaining them.


  4. This is powerful and enlightening. Come to think of it, there really is no religion approving of premarital sex. Then again, not everyone is religious or obedient to their religion so I guess that's why more and more people are against such belief.


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